Mom, why won’t you buy me a phone?

Teen TextingThis is where it starts…. at what age to kids need either own phone? Seemed like a relatively simple parenting decision, but no… If she has her own phone then it will open up a world of Instagram, Snapchat, Yik Yak, Kik and whatever the newest social media sharing world comes out with. Our family is pretty tech-heavy. We’re not Luddites (although there is an awesome restaurant in town called Ned Ludd) and there are no safety issues requiring a phone.  A year ago when my daughter was almost 12 we got her a computer.  Ostensibly it was for doing homework, and mostly it has been that.  The privilege of having a computer came with a TECHNOLOGY USAGE CONTRACT that lays out the rules of the land and also provides a framework for discussion (both formal and impromptu).

Fastforward a year….. the computer has been working well.  A couple minor issues with email threads that got out of control, but all within normal expected parenting issues.  Now the child is turning 13 and she tells me “MOM, EVERYONE else has a phone.  Why won’t you get me one?”  Now, first I know it’s not true that EVERYONE has one and second, she assumes incorrectly that it’s a constitutional right to get a phone.  Those matters aside, what is the best choice?  I don’t think there is one RIGHT answer and one WRONG answer.  It depends on so many different variables.

In doing some research, went to a talk by Eric Anctil, one of his points was that we are charting new territory — these are new issues that were not present in previous generations of parents, so there are no role models and best practice data.    His talk brought out even more things to be afraid of (argh!) and no real answers.   Another realization is that the constant use of technology IS their real world, so avoiding it or forcing them to stop can cause more harm than good.

What are the right choices?  I don’t know.  But I do know that being present and trying to engage my teenager in these uncharted waters is the best thing I can do.  Talking with my teen about my very real fear of the unknown and working together will get us both through this intact!  (hopefully!)


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Cables, cables, cables

hdmi cablesWe got a new tv, it’s obscenely huge. I was almost embarrassed to bring it in the house. Can’t believe how we survived on a small 24″ tv for all those years. setup all the high-def, home audio and hdmi cables needed some extra hdmi to hdmi cables. Found great quality cables at and the shipping was fast. love the prices. the people at Triangle Cables helped get us all setup so it really was just plug and play. it’s important to get the right high quality cables to take advantage of all the high def features in my tv, so these cables were just right. Checkout their deals on hdmi cables.

Great new technologies!

Getting caught up on my reading this weekend (you should see the stack of magazines piled up!) and came across these two great ideas!

1. nearly waterless laundry for commercial cleaners (hospitals, nursing homes, hotels etc…) from Xeros in the UK uses nylon beads to clean
2. wind turbine from FloDesign Wind Turbine that looks like an airplane engine. it’s supposed to be 3 times more efficient than the traditional three-bladed windmills.

Details from business week